Hi guys, I hope you guys are doing well! I had a few things I wanted to talk about however today seemed fit for a good pep talk. I wanted to focus purely on “standing up”, by that I mean standing up for yourself.
NOTE: This is completely my opinion and I don’t wish to offend anyone.
Listen to me sounding so cheesy, but we all have times in life where we just wished we had more courage, to do things, to say things. Most importantly, standing up for yourself. Some people are blessed with having that personality that they don’t even need think twice. Then there are people who struggle with this, it’s not necessarily a bad thing but there are different ways which you can learn to stand up for yourself.
I used to be someone that wouldn’t say anything to anyone. An example is, being friends with someone and they do things that hurt you and you don’t have the courage to stand up for yourself. Well personally I had a few run ins with friends. I think the biggest aspect is understanding you have a right to feel the way you do and no one can change that. Once you know you are entitled to feel it starts to get easier. In regards to friends there will be times they will make you feel guilty if you do say something but honestly it’s just a stepping stone once you stop worrying about them. It sets you free. I personally believe friends are suppose to make you feel good and if they aren’t, they are no friend to you.
The world has changed so much even from 5 years ago. There was a time everything was so different, however as the society changes so does people’s outlook on life. You are allowed to feel every emotion, I AM TELLING YOU THAT! If you are sad, you are sad and that’s ok. Just don’t submerge yourself within it. If you feel like someone is doing you wrong and you have had enough you have the right to say something. Now whether that’s with family, friends, co workers, bosses etc.
When I look back, I remember all the times I didn’t have the courage to stand up for myself and how I let people walk all over me. This post is merely an insight of how important it is to me to have the courage. Once you have the courage and you know you are entitled to feel what you want to feel. It’s almost a ripple effect, you start noticing changes and how people act towards you knowing you won’t let them walk all over you. Now with this, I’m not saying everyone is like this, of course not! But there are people that you will stumble upon in life that are.
It’s not something that you can switch on and off, it takes time and patiences. I’m happy that I’m a place that I know I can stand up for myself and for someone when required. When I did start having the courage, you guys won’t believe how many “friends” I lost!
A beautiful quote I once read in regards to standing up for yourself or for others went like this:
“Don’t raise your voice, improve your argument”
Something to think about…
Much Love – Dusk Avenue